Benefits for You

In deciding whether Mediation or Collaborative Law are right for you at this time, you will want to consider how much professional help you will need.  When a couple chooses mediation, they are assuming a greater share of responsibility – to listen well, to speak clearly, to navigate the emotions involved with all of the transitions that come with divorce.  When one party wants to have constructive legal support at the table and two lawyers assisting them to listen well and speak with preparation, the Collaborative Law process might be the appropriate choice.  Continuum of Choices

The Benefits of Collaborative Law

Collaborative Family Law focuses on all involved parties reaching a mutually acceptable resolution of their issues. The process results in valuable benefits for the clients and for their children, friends and extended families.

  • When you choose collaborative lawyers to help you through a separation or divorce, we focus on your reaching a mutually acceptable resolution of all of the issues. The professionals work hard to create a cooperative environment where communication opens and where both spouses can envision the results of a “good divorce” between them. If you are parents, the first focus is on parenting philosophies and envisioning the kind of young adults you would like your children to grow up to be. With a positive restructuring of your family in mind, the next step is to gather all of the information both spouses need to make good and informed decisions. The collaborative professionals provide a setting where you can work with one another to create the best possible life for your children and for yourselves.
  • The Collaborative process builds what feels like a team advocating for a positive future instead of two opposing sides arming for an adversarial battle. Your lawyer supports you; your spouse’s lawyer supports your spouse. With everyone working toward that shared goal of a “good divorce”, you keep control of the creatively tailored outcome your family deserves.
  • If an expert opinion is needed or if a coach, child specialist or financial specialist would help, you can jointly hire one independent professional, shortening the time needed to have information necessary to reach a decision and reducing the overall expense.
  • Once both of you have all of the information you need to make sound and reasoned decisions, the collaborative attorneys work with you to create the settlement agreement. If the decisions have to do with parenting issues, working in this way reduces the parental conflict that the adversarial system can generate and helps protect children from having their loyalties divided.
  • In the Collaborative process, you can schedule meetings without waiting for court dates. You will generally spend less time and, as a result, less money to reach closure.
  • The family’s issues stay within the Collaborative setting, giving everyone more privacy, greater confidentiality and less stress during an already stressful time.
  • Because both of you are represented by attorneys, the settlement agreement and the judgment roll documents can be prepared by the same attorneys involved in the process.

The Benefits of Mediation

Mediation involves one neutral professional (in this case, a Lawyer Mediator) helping the parties reach a mutually acceptable resolution of their issues.

  • When you choose a Lawyer Mediator to help you through a separation or divorce, there is a facilitated conversations between the parties. When a couple needs assistance, the presence of the mediator can provide support, information and direction so that both spouses can envision the results of a “good divorce”. Just as in Collaborative Law, if you are parents, our first focus is on parenting philosophies envisioning the kind of young adults you would like your children to grow up to be. The next step is to gather all of the information both of you need to make good and informed decisions.  There is an open and honest sharing of your broad goals and of all financial information before negotiations begin.
    The Mediator, even though a Lawyer, is not permitted to give legal advice. The Lawyer Mediator can, however, explain a framework of the law from extensive training and experience.
  • The Mediation process offers the incorporation of consulting lawyers who can provide specific legal advice and guidance. The Mediator must remain neutral to assist both parties find a balance and to foster constructive communication between them.
  • If an expert opinion is needed or if a coach, child specialist or financial specialist would help, you can jointly hire one independent professional, shortening the time needed to have information necessary to reach a decision and reducing the overall expense.
  • Once both of you have all of the information you need to make sound and reasoned decisions, the Lawyer Mediator will work with you to create the net worth statement and then the settlement agreement. If decisions have to do with parenting and support issues, working together reduces the parental conflict and helps protect children from being put in the middle.
  • In the Mediation process, you can schedule meetings convenient for you. You will generally spend less time and less money to reach closure.
  • The family’s issues stay in the Mediation setting, giving everyone privacy, confidentiality and less stress during an already stressful time.
    Your Lawyer Mediator can prepare the net worth statement and the settlement agreement. One of the consulting attorneys will prepare the judgment roll documents, all in a non-adversarial process.